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Dawn Camp shares God’s gift of essential oils in her newest releases My Essential Oil Companion and It All Began in a Garden. She is a photographer, essential oil slinger, Mom to eight and Mimi to five. Dawn enjoys movie nights with her husband and steaming cups of Earl Grey.

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  1. Dawn, thank you for sharing this. Apart from the book (congrats!), you could have described me. Isn’t it always when the sweetest is at stake that we face the craziest attacks? Or when we’ve had a victory. May we stick together unleashing God’s power in prayer and — like my wise mama says–leave both our successes and failures behind to start each day fresh. So thankful for His fresh mercies! Love that Ezekiel verse!

    • Yes, this is so much worse when a lot is at stake. A friend’s husband passed away unexpectedly this week right after I wrote this and it’s magnified the message for me even more.

  2. Wow! This post is exactly what I needed this morning. I actually woke up at 3 am this morning praying for people who wounded me in the past. Last year, I was still walking in unforgiveness, bitterness and strife. My heavenly father, God took me on a spiritual journey this year. He wooed me with His agape love, grace, mercy and patience for a flawed individual as myself. If God can love and have mercy on me through my “period of rebellion” , surely I should have mercy on others. I finally realized, on this journey, that unforgiveness is not an option. It took me a long time to get to this point because the flesh prefers to indulge in: self-pity, play the victim, retaliate, keep records of offences, gossip and hold grudges. When our flesh decreases, the Holy Spirit can then increase in us. Its a daily battle to forgive others but Jesus is our help through all of our struggles. Thanks Dawn for this great post to encourage and inspire God’s children on their journeys of spiritual growth .

    • Charlene, it sounds like you’ve had an amazing heart change. You are so right—when we recognize all that God forgives in us, how can we justify not forgiving others? Thank you for sharing your journey in this area.

  3. Thank you for sharing this. Right now, at this exact moment I am harboring bitterness in my heart toward my husband. This has motivated me to speak to him and let him know exactly why I am upset.

  4. I’m a little scared to admit, because I don’t like admitting it about myself, but I think I’ve become a bit of a “score keeper” lately. Talk about holding onto a grudge! I’ve literally kept track of perceived hurts or disrespects from my partner, and taken action to “even the score.” How sad!
    I need to remember, we are all given each and every single moment as a gift, not to be squandered or taken for granted. Living in a world where I tally up a score and set out to gain points back is a shameful and ungrateful way to live.
    Thank you for these words. They hit home.

    • Shelly, I encourage you to tear up the tally sheet and start with a clean slate. Your words—”I need to remember, we are all given each and every single moment as a gift, not to be squandered or taken for granted”—amen, sister!

  5. Oh what a tangled web we weave when we choose to harden our hearts. Allowing ourselves to
    let go of all that tension and bitterness is the most freeing experience. It is then that we can feel the beautiful closeness to a forgiving God and become the person He wants us to be. This morning I am reminded, once again, to stay in that peace.

    • You are so right, Carol. I found the tension and bitterness to be absolutely exhausting. I wanted a nap to rest and escape my own mind!

    • Melissa, I’m praying for you now that you’ll be able to soften your heart towards this person. I can tell it’s important to you.

  6. What a great post, it is exhausting to hold onto anger, and really all negative emotions. I agree with Charlene’s comment entirely.

  7. Dawn,
    This post is very timely as I struggle with the fact that we/I will be angry, but are called not to sin in our anger. I wrestle with having a softened heart of flesh, but to not let my heart be tromped on. It’s a delicate balance and I have been seeking God’s wisdom. Your post has helped by weighing in today and giving me food for thought…
    Thanks and blessings,
    Bev

  8. Sharing this!
    I tell my kids that just because they start down a wrong path doesn’t mean they have to stay on that life path.
    But…..
    Man is that hard to live out with the people who live in my house sometimes! I can get cranky and entitled myself and then have to go back and say that I am the one who is sorry.
    Living it out isn’t always fun…especially when I’m right. (That last part was a joke. Kind of. )

  9. Dawn,

    Amen^^*

    I’ve been on along journey of healing, refining and freedom.

    Bitterness is the core issue, among others.

    Still working on overcoming the fear of been hurt again.

    Praying for healing. Because I want to forgive and be gracious as Jesus is to me.

    I’m tired of it turning into self loathing, for I do want to do God’s will.
    But it’s hard to break emotional habits I was no aware I had. Like suppressing, isolating and escapism.
    I had other names for them before, and they seem like my shields.
    Sadly, this things developed since my baby years, back then parents didn’t know what they know now.
    It’s funny how neglect can affect someone as sensitive emotionally as I am.
    I was often accused of been over sensitive by lack of understanding.

    I didn’t understand why others didn’t care as much as I did.
    Learning that humans can grieve the Holy Spirit made me realize,
    I only know a smaller version. But I still felt like I could relate.

    It’s been a long and hard journey since 2001.

    So many heavy issues, that only God’s Holy Spirit in Christ Jesus can reach me fully.

    But I have the hope, that like when I was born again in 1994.

    That wonderful year and half of knowing, feeling, hungering for His Word, been able to dwell and meditate.
    Feeling the closeness, peace and joy of the Lord.

    Though it’s taking time, I hold on to this simple but eternal truths.
    God loves me, I am His child, and He created me for His good purpose.

    Thankfully I finally met two wonderful ministry ladies who God knew were the right people,
    who could help me. Also, have a christian counselor.

    She is my third. I reached a plateau with the others, also felt that knowing my issues was a heavy burden.
    And they needed me to find someone else to help me.

    His love never fails, never gives up, never runs out on me.

    I love this lyrics. Jesus is the reason I was able to overcome suicide for good many years ago.

    I look forward to becoming who I am in Him.

    Jesus is victor!
    – Corrie Ten Boom.

    And I look forward to that ultimate day of freedom from all my issues, for eternity with Him forever^^*

  10. Oh my word, this post was so meant for me today……I really struggle with softening my heart, only to be taken advantage of and hurt again but this has reminded me that avoiding the hurt is not my job. My job is to be forgiving….just as the Lord forgives us.

  11. Dawn,

    I pray daily that my husband can e a forgiving person-and myself as well. We all have disagreements, but God said ““In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” Ephesians 4:26. Every night we have a “tiff” I/we try to work it out before saying good night. I have never held a grudge or stayed made at anyone for a long time.

    Blessings 🙂