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Deidra is a national speaker and the author of Every Little Thing: Making a World of Difference Right Where You Are, and One: Unity in a Divided World. Follow Deidra on Instagram @deidrariggs

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  1. I made most of my mistakes with the first. I mean I still make mistakes, but not as frequently as the first. Good thing he loves me and forgives me just like my Father.

    • For me, by the time my second child came along, I had let up on myself a bit. Me too, I continue to make mistakes. But grace is just such a beautiful thing that now – after I’ve gotten done with the panic and the kicking myself in the pants – it doesn’t take me quite as long to let it go.

      Also? I have learned it’s really important to tell my children I was wrong when I was, and to apologize liberally and whenever necessary.

  2. oh yes.
    it had been just over 18 years for me… and this brings to me tears. honest tears, from this mama who has broken and been broken, grown & loved. and every minute, every step… has been part of our imperfect, cherished story.

    • Imperfect and cherished. That just about sums it up, Dawn. I cried a few tears writing this, you know? Even though it’s been years, it’s such a sweet memory. I’d like to sit in the hospital room with that young mother and offer her a bit of hope.

  3. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve said this very thing Deidra. Women will look at my grown children and ask how we did it. I smile wryly and say, “Grace.” There was no more imperfect mother than I, but in His mercy He poured grace into all the cracked and broken places and somehow we ended up with these amazing adults.
    Your beautiful writing is just blessing me to pieces these days.

    • Linda, YOU are blessing ME these days! I’m so glad you’re all settled in, and making the rounds once again. Love you!

  4. Perfectly imperfect is how we roll around here and it is only with grace and by His Grace that I am still standing at the end of the day! Ironically though, I needed to read this in order to remember that…and having it come from someone more seasoned than I (my babies are 6,4,2 and 5mos) it actually sunk in. So thank you!

    • You’re welcome! And I’m so grateful to you for the work you’re doing. You are changing the world – right where you are!

  5. Yes!! I am so sharing this post. I know so many of us think we are alone in these fears, and mistakes, and messy days. Thank you for sharing that we are not alone.

    • Nope. Not alone. In fact, when it comes to mistakes and fears and insecurity, I’m pretty sure we’re all surrounded by that great cloud of witnesses the bible talks about. 🙂

  6. Deidra,

    Loved the post. Though not a parent, to humans, am a parent to 2 Iguanas–make mistakes–you bet even in life, & love! Thank God for His wonderful Grace & Mercy showered new every day!

  7. This is a heart-touching, beautifully written article—brought tears to my eyes.

    As a mother of 3 20-somethings and a 7 year old, I thank you!

  8. You made me cry! (It doesn’t take much, though…) 😉
    Thanks, needed to hear this…every once in a while.
    I remember thinking the exact same thing when we came home with our first, five years ago!

    • I totally get that crying thing. I used to laugh at my mother for crying at commercials and now? Oh my goodness! Tomorrow, I’m going to cheer on a few friends who are running the Marathon in our town. I was telling my husband about it tonight and I started crying. And the race hasn’t even started, yet!