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Kristin Anne Smith is a wife and mother, but most importantly, a daughter of the King. Redeemed by His grace and so grateful. She is passionate about sharing God’s hope in the dark places and shares how she continues to be transformed and experiences God’s extravagant love. Kristin blogs at...

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    • Thanks! It shouldn’t be hard to do should it?? I tend to notice the “gifts” others get or have and can’t see all the blessings right in my own home! This process has been a reminder to me to focus on God and not the world!! Have a great day!

  1. Great reminders for this busy holiday season. I do not have kids yet but even still I struggle with focusing on all the wrong things – chores, home needs, outside commitments that overshadow my husband, etc. You are so right – while these things are important they are NOT what I should or want to be remembered for at the end of my life. Thank you for bringing back the focus. Blessings!

    • Brittnie – it IS hard to keep the right focus isn’t it!! I struggle with it every day in some way or another! Must be my Type A, control freak personality! 🙂 But God is patient with me as I learn how to see all things as gifts! Have a wonderful day!

  2. It’s easy to just go with our busy schedules and lose balance in our priorities. I love the words of Proverbs 14:1, “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” Sometimes I wonder how that applies to me, as a single woman in her twenties, who lives at home for financial reasons. I want to make building my house, whatever that looks like, in this season a priority! Great post Kristin!

    • Jennifer – sometimes I think it is just about our attitude…where ever we live or whatever season we are in. When I have a negative attitude and perspective it can affect me at work, home, in the relationships with my extended family….that is my “folly” for sure!!

  3. Well said! My initial thought to your question was what DON’T I struggle with in becoming like the woman described in Proverbs 31 🙂 However, I appreciate the thoughts you gave for us to ponder and the encouragement!

    • Kasey – I can relate more than you know!! I recently was reading a book called “Becomming the Woman of your Husbands Dreams”…..and when I did that I was really being intentional about my actions towards my husband and my kids. When I am feeding “good” stuff into my heart and mind…good stuff comes out. When I stop, stop learning, reading the Bible whatever….my true, selfish nature comes out. This was evident just yesterday and so reading this post again for myself was much needed food for my empty soul!

  4. I am right there with you. Even if I don’t have “things” to keep me busy, but mind keeps me swirling around and missing out on so many things. Thank you, Kristin, for sharing!

  5. This is just what I needed this morning… LAst night my mind was really on, what am I doing to make my husband feel like he comes first. Before the things I selfishly want.
    The verses were really am encouragement…
    Thanks:)

  6. I just love Proverbs 31. Your post was right on target.

    Loved the comment you made: “I think it is just about our attitude…where ever we live or whatever season we are in.” When I have a negative attitude and perspective it can affect me at work, home, in the relationships with family….that is my “folly” for sure!!

    I’m working on my attitude & formulating a gratitude attitude! Would love to be a Proverbs 31 woman who is blessed by her husband, is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.”

    That is my ultimate goal in life. To please God first then hubby!

    • Beautiful Beth!! That should be our goal and our focus! It is hard though and we don’t do it perfectly…and if you are anything like me I am my worst critic! 🙂 Trying to be willing to give AND accept grace when needed and growing from the journey!

  7. Being a Proverbs 31 woman was a struggle for me at one time, when my kids were really little. Having had a mother who tore her house down, I have always strived to be a wise woman who builds her house – who builds up her husband and her kids.

    I used to be a clean freak and I really had to work hard to learn to let some things go and put my husband and or kids first. It was not easy at all. I was never taught how to sew and still wish I could learn. I work hard at having a happy and calm home for everyone which can be a challenge with tweens and teens! But when my kids are content to hang out at home, it makes me think that I’m doing a not-so-bad job at making a happy home where kids feel accepted, loved, cherished … things I never got growing up. I even had to learn what love was and it took work to really effectively and wholeheartedly love (in action) my husband and kids.

    Being a Proverbs 31 woman is a challenge, but it is possible and achievable, even if it takes a lifetime to perfect. 🙂

  8. I forgot to say too that the only way I can effectively work at being a Proverbs 31 woman is putting God first – loving Him foremost. When I do that, loving everyone else falls into place perfectly and it helps to properly put things into perspective of their importance.

    • Rise – this is SO true. God HAS to be first…such wisdom!! I do much better in all areas of my life when I am focused on Him and His plan for my life! 🙂

  9. The clothes… laundry, mending, keeping up with it. I think it’s been maybe a handful of times since I had kids that I’ve done (and put away) all the laundry for the week. I know it sounds lame, but seriously, how did that woman do it??

    • Laurie – you are not alone!! We moved to a new state/house this past June and I have this cabinet/shelf space in my laundry room and the clean clothes just keep getting washed and folded and stacked and re-used! Each of the kids have a dresser and none are in use! 🙂

  10. I want to be this woman. Not just when I’m reading about her, not just when it’s pre-dawn and I’m alone with God. All the time. My struggle is remembering her when I’m in the thick of it. When all the things that can go wrong in a day happen in the span of five minutes. That’s when I want to be her most, but can’t seem to remember her at all. That’s where I struggle. How do you remember to be her in the moment when the hardest thing is to remember to be her?