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Sally Clarkson is the mother of four grown children, a speaker, and author of several books on motherhood, parenting, and marriage including the recently released "Own Your Life." She loves celebrating life with her family, strong black tea, traveling, and investing in friendship and encouraging women to build beautiful lives.

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  1. Resting in His arms is the safest place for us parents (and all of us)…remembering that He calls us there, and He gives us His strength to persevere. It is wearisome, yet it’s not about us and our comfort; it’s all about Him.

    Rich blessings, Sally, as you continue writing stories that give encouragement…

  2. yes. the weary parent. so easy to forget that we treat our loing father in much the same way ours treat us. i am so thankful that he is perfect! thank you for that insight.

  3. Thank-you for this. I sit here this morning so weary from dealing with two teenagers this week. And doing it along because thier father has been gone for some time now. It has been hard but I just need these quiet moments to listen and quiet my heart and get the energy back to stay steadfast. And learn a good lesson from it all.

  4. Oh Sally thank you. I’ve been on that ‘couch’ with my daughter soooo many times and she will only be a freshman in the fall. I keep waiting for it to get easier. Like I will wake up one magic morning and find that she ‘gets it’. That didn’t happen for me until I had my own daughter. I called my mom that very second and apologized for everything I had ever done and said in high school Lol! Being the bad guy is exhausting. Thank you for reminding me it’s worth it.
    Many blessings,
    Sherri

  5. Oh, how I can relate. I remember going to your conferences in Fort Worth when my kids were just babes {that’s when I had two. Now I have seven}.

    I’m so embarassed to say that I’m going through something similiar with my 16 year old. I wanted to blog about it, but felt so bad about myself and my parenting that I didn’t. I wasn’t sure how to express myself. Anyway, my 16 year old daughter thinks I’m against her. Just this weekend she wore non-prescription tinted contact lenses w/out discussing this with her father and me first. I was livid and wanted to lash out, but God told me to “be still,” instead.

    In my being still, I told her that since she needed glasses anyway, what I was willing to do was let her get contacts from her doctor, and not from some salesman at the store where she works, and allow there to be a hint {suttle} tint. She’s okay with that. I’m not really Sally, but I realize that I must choose my battles wisely. Not only that I’m trying to let her see that she can come to me about anything, and though I may not agree with her decision most of the times we can come to an agreement that can be suitable for both of us if she just comes to me and discuss what’s on her heart.

    This call to motherhood is way more difficult than what I’d ever imagined. I feel like my children think I’m the enemy. My two older ones anyway. They, too, think I don’t like their friends and so on.

    So thankful for your transparency and glad to be able to find your blog!

  6. thank you for the encouragement Sally. Thank you for reminding us to be thoughtful on what we say and don’t say. You spoke truth to your daughter but you kept your own need for solitude silent. I am not at the teenage stage yet but even this morning I had to be the “bad guy” when my 6 yr old told me he did not want to keep a commitment he had made. He cried tears. I comforted him, but I reminded him that in our family if we make a commitment we have to keep it. thanks again!

  7. I am so weary from being the hated mother, at times I just want to give in just for a break from all the stress. How on earth do you survive raising teenagers??? I ask God for grace daily but after reading what you wrote I have to wonder if I am just as stressful for God, I haven’t fully matured yet even though I am almost 40 and I know I must be just as much of a handful for God! Thank you for challenging me Sally, I hope I find the grace I need to give and the grace I need to receive.
    x

  8. Wonderfully written and oh so true. I am walking that same road with my teen daughter. It’s a natural part of her growing into womanhood by fully establishing her own identity. But it doesn’t make it less difficult. Since we love her and cherish her, we give fences to mark the boundaries. She may feel they restrict her but they’re there to keep her safe. As she’s matured, we’ve increased the size of the pasture to fit the amount of responsibility and wisdom she uses in making choices. But it is amazing how it seems to happen over night.

  9. Thanks for the honesty. My sister-in-law is dealing with a teenager whose behavior (falling grades, talking back, lousy attitude) has been quite challenging. I will forward immediately. Thanks again!

  10. Parenting is the hardest job EVER.
    I don’t know how many times I have reflected on exactly this. As much as my children exasperate me I KNOW God feels the same way about me.
    So thankful He loves us anyway.

  11. Thank you for this look into your life as a mom to teenagers! I just told another (in)courage writer today how much I value hearing from mom friends and mentors who are in a different parenting stage than I am. My daughter is just three years old, and sometimes her three-ness can be so overwhelming. It’s good to hear from other moms about other ages. And…yeah…it’s also good to hear how our God is teaching other moms through parenting. It’s amazing how He does that, and hard as it sometimes is, I’m thankful that won’t end with the latest preschooler phase.

  12. oh, sally….

    i am in constant awe of what the Lord has given you to share and am so, so grateful to have had the chance to meet you. you are a gift!!!

    with so much love,
    angie smith